I think you calling the sweet man Terry, your huzzbenn is fine, Dan.
How about you tell these people who think it’s a problem, to fuck the fuck off. Of course you won’t because a Libra doesn’t talk like that. Now if you were a Scorpio....

My feeling about the yoga class dude was more that if he often chatted to the women he shared the class with as if they were, oh, I dunno, people he shared a class with, as opposed to potential dates, it wouldn't be so creepy.

Now, admittedly, I'm old so it's a little different - but not that different. I go to a lot of classes with primarily women and a few men - yoga, and also various types of exercise in the pool. And the difference between the guy who talks to you because he's been watching your tits bounce at aquafit, and the one who talks to you because you are fellow human beings sharing a fun experience, is pretty obvious. It's mostly that the conversation is not an excuse for hitting on you, but just a conversation - an end in itself.

So if you want to talk to the women at your class, talk to them because humans chatting while sharing an activity is a normal part of being a person. If you can't do that without an ulterior motive, then, yeah, just leave them alone.

That's great that THIS kid is well-adjusted and consuming "violent" porn healthily, but I worry that hurtcore is gaining in popularity, especially in the Deep Web, and especially amongst younger consumers/offenders.

ANYONE who thinks that what their teen, sibling, friend, family member, or SO is viewing is GENUINE hurtcore and not ethical sadism needs to be aware, and to make THEM aware that they are further victimizing the victim(s) just by viewing their torment onscreen. It's NOT harmless. As was mentioned previously by another commenter, it is VITAL that all parties involved understand the difference between criminal behavior and make-believe, and to be VERY cautious of how unexpectedly one can cross paths with the other.

Let me guess. "Hurtcore" is porn where people are actually being tortured against their will? Or at least porn that is marketed as such? Now I'm depressed.

I think the word "husband" or "wife" feels strange in the mouth of all newlyweds, to some degree.

Oddly enough, other people started calling referring to my boyfriend as my "husband" before we were actually married. I guess we gave the impression of being a married couple.

@5 "Calling referring." Oh, what a pity there's no edit feature.

@4...yes, "hurtcore" is a rather broad term for countless depraved and sickening things that fall within those brackets. I'll do you a favor and spare you any details. It's very real, and younger and younger offenders are getting busted for both patronizing AND supplying these sites with fresh material.

The really great thing is that some of the most sadistic fuckers out there are rotting in a prison cell as we speak, and that law enforcement will continue to weed out these plague rats that simply can't resist the bait. (Silver lining and all that.) But with the younger generations generally being so much more tech-savvy, it's important to know that what you SEE in someone's files could just be mold on the surface, and not the sum total of what they're viewing behind closed doors.

I think that makes it, now more than ever, absolutely necessary to red-flag tendencies towards "violent" pornography.

@2 Honestly one of the major benefits of being obviously married (ring tattoo, regularly but not constantly referencing wife) is being able to have good, open friendships and acquaintences with women since it's very clear I'm not going to start hitting on them or anything. It's like a natural barrier falls away and we can just be people. I love it.

What?!?
We've been told repeatedly that porn is healthy, and that people will not become sensitized and seek stronger stimuli to get and keep the excitement level up.
Who could have guessed that raising a generation with saturation level exposure to porn from childhood would have negative consequences?

"If I heard someone I did not know say it like that I would think they were mocking the person."

Uh... what? Lady, have you never been around couples? They have all sorts of pet names for each other. Seriously, this cannot be the first time you've encountered this.

Agony @2: Yes. Dude needs to just be friendly, to be equally friendly to all the people in the class regardless of whether he's attracted to them, and if any of them are interested, THEY will initiate a date with HIM. That's the way to not be creepy in a space that is supposed to be a creep-free zone.

Xiao @5: I always took the fact that I viscerally recoiled at being referred to as "my wife" as evidence that I shouldn't have been married in the first place.

I realized maybe 40 years ago that EVERYONE appreciates some friendly banter, and that you can never have too many friendly acquaintances. Being friendly has led to coffee, dates and yes, even some NSFW sexual encounters. (I'm gay. You know how we can be...)
If you're a tad introverted, start by being friendly to people who can't possibly take offense -- employees, older people of the same sex, people who smile and say something leading... you know. Work your way up to the hotties you want to bang.
You're welcome.